I had an “ahah!” moment this morning about playing the game on my terms. It went like this:
Why is it that most of the time I don’t live my life for me? Instead, I live it doing things that I think I “should” do. I don’t do what I want to do, or love to do, because somehow I have this very perverted idea that the “should”s are more important and should have more priority. What would it look like if I truly played the game and lived my life on my own terms?
Playing on my Terms
I’m talking about more than just getting up when I want to and going to bed when I want to. This goes deeper than that. It involves spending my time doing things that I find fun, spending my money on things that are truly important to me, sharing my life with someone that I really connect with (not just someone my friends/family approve of), and choosing the spirituality/religion (or lack of!) that resonates with me (instead of following the beliefs and structures that I was raised with).
And most importantly, it involves doing this with my whole heart, my whole being, and not being ashamed of who I am and how I want to live my life.
That right there is probably one of the biggest things for me. I tend to worry about what other people think, or how it will look to other people. I make decisions based on that – business decisions, decisions on how I spend my time, decisions on what I use my money for, decisions on what I say about what I believe, etc. Why is it that I am so afraid of what people might think or say that I put THEM ahead of what I want for my own life?
Ultimately, here is what it comes down to. My life is just that – my life. No one else has the right to tell me how to live it, including what I should believe! Ultimately, I am the one who must live it, and either enjoy it or not.
I choose to enjoy it. And I choose today to stop worrying about what other people think of it!
I live my life proudly and confidently on my own terms.
Would you like to join me and do the same for yourself?
Related posts:
Jess I am THRILLED that 30 Days to Changing Your Game is opening up such amazing insights for you! You are working hard and staying the course. Super proud of you.
Sarah
One of the motto’s for this year that I’ve taken on has been “What others think of me it none of my business.” Easier said than done forsure! For the most part the idea of doing what you enjoy etc. is excellent and for a ballanced person you would end up helping other and being kind to them because you would want to but put that thought in and unbalanced selfish person, I’m not sure they would be too fun to be around.
Hope you have a good week Jess!
-Shawna
@Sarah – thanks for stopping by my blog, Sarah!
And thank you sooo much for putting together such a fantastic blog series for this new year. It has already been such a huge inspiration and changed my game in numerous ways – and we’re only just beginning week #2!
(For those of you reading this who don’t know what I’m referring to, check out Sarah’s 30 Days to Change your Game blog series over at http://www.escaping-mediocrity.com)
@Shawna – I love that motto!
A very good way to put it. 
Of course that thought in an unbalanced person would not be fun, but what WOULD be fun in an unbalanced person?
I thought about putting a disclaimer on my post about that, but then realized that anyone who is really following me and resonating with what I am saying already knows that, and I don’t have to “disclaim” what I’m saying… 
My goal is to attract the balanced people, and to be a balanced person myself… 